what would you mom's do if your 14yr daughter who u orig had custody of wont see you & its been 2 months?
my 12yr old daughter @ the time(1 1/2 yrs ago)now 14 wanted to go live with my ex&his new wife. I said no becuz my ex is a manipulator&i no what he did to me.he always talked bad about me since we div'd(she was 4)I rec'd sole phy cust & we shared legal -1 1/2 yrs ago my daug&i got along finewe never fought,she was my shawdow.but my ex kept at her about living w/him becuz she lived w/me since she was a child, in the state of MA a child can chose the parent she wants to live with @ 13-my ex took me to ct & i fought until the end -GAL and all- $19,000. in atty fees & i lost phy cust but we still share legal-not that that means much.the judge based custody on my daug's wants,-he is marr'd, i am not-he ref's to let me see her on my ct ord's visits and i hav't seen her in 2 mths-she told me she doesnt want to c me & that she doesnt think of me as her mother anylonger! she is made becuz i fought to keep her--What would u do =pay & not see her and hurt all the time or sign away you rights?
Please dont give up on your daughter. I can understand how difficult and painul it may be for you. But your daughter is a teenager now, and many teenage girls go through a stage where they hate their mothers. And a lot of it probably has to do with your ex and his new partner saying things that probablly arent true.
Show your daughter that you are a good mother and care about her. Write her letters. Offer to take her places. Try and put yourself in her shoes and relate to her. What kind of things does she like?
Most importnant, give your daughter tiem and space. If you become too pushy or needy, she may pull away from you more. Its just a teenage girl thing really. But all you can really do is be patient and show her how much you love her. Good luck!