Why would a parent (especially an Ap) force/coerce their daughter to place her child up for adoption?
I understand the entire teenage pregnancy thing and how it will put a little more stress on the family but why would a parent coerce/manipulate/force their child to do something that will cause them a "lifetime" of grief vs. a few years of extra stress not to mention the affect it will have on the baby?
Isn't the normal or healthier thing to do is help her in a time of need?
To help her and the grandchild.
Does a parents responsibility to parent/assist their child end with teenage pregnancy? What happened to the "until 18" thing many here protest about or is that just conditional as well?
Why do parents think they have the right to do this......is it a God complex or just ignorance?
I've experienced this mentality first hand. I have no clue why my father thought trying to force me into adoption was in anyone's best interest. He continued to push adoption after my son was born, long after. What gets me is that my adad is also a ndad, he was over the moon when his own lost daughter found him. How can someone know the pain of losing a child then try to force that same pain on someone they claim to love, and YES my adad felt pain over his daughter's adoption, he has made that very clear to me.
I think it is mostly the stigma of having a teenage wh*re in the family. My parents did everything in their power to avoid having to admit that I had a child at 17. I was left out of family gatherings, not invited to social function with them and never offered one bit of support of any kind. All I can come up with is that I had shamed the family and had to lay in the bed I made because those were the only reasons I was ever given.
DR. PHIL: "A Teen's Pregnancy"